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Fake It So Good!!!

Let's face it ladies, we all have faked a couple of orgasms here and there. I know I have and it was because I didn't want to hurt the guy feelings or I wanted him to leave. I don't speak my mind during sex I just let him believe that it's great. The funny thing is that I would ask him what he wants. Weird right? Going thru the whole ordeal of faking requires some awesome acting skills as I would say so myself. The loud moan, the clutching of the sheets, and I even have the leg shake down path. LOL..

 I was having a conversation with one of my guy friends one night and he was shocked when I told him that I had faked orgasms before. He asked me " Why didn't I just tell the guy he wasn't doing it right?" and I didn't have an answer. He made a very valid point! That's when I realized that by faking orgasm I make it worst for myself  the next time because he will continue to the same thing thinking that I liked it. I realized that faking orgasms isn't the grown thing to do because you have to let them know what you want in order for guys to know what feels good for you. They can't read minds and you have to give them direction.

At the same time I feel like men have very fragile egos. How can you tell them they aren't doing it the way you like them to without hurting their feelings? Should you tell them before, during or after the sex? When is it appropriate to let them know? I just don't want the guy to feel inadequate or feel like he isn't doing a good job. He maybe doing a great job in one department but falls flat in another area. I think that some guys do what worked for them last time or what worked on the girl previously. So now you have to get him conditioned or some might say trained to know what your body likes. Faking just makes things worst I realized that I knew to open my mouth and say what I want. I wouldn't want a guy to fake an orgasm while he is with me and I found out that he did. That would hurt my little feelings lol...

Have you ever faked an orgasm before? Leave a comment


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  1. AnonymousSeptember 13, 2012 at 3:29 PM

    Never faked one and I don't believe I had one faked but great post #teampissyopants

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  2. UrbangeekSeptember 18, 2012 at 11:17 AM

    Well this why i explore thoughts and experiences plus my in-depth of men and women in general, sexually and emotionally on my blog ....great post love keep it up nothing but 9ward(504) love here..some do have weak ego's oh well.. glad i was made hefty strong amen jah lol....

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    1. Biffy MichelleSeptember 18, 2012 at 4:47 PM

      Thanks for the comment What's the name of your blog?

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