Healing A Broken Heart

Having a broken heart is the worst feeling in the world. It affects you psychologically, physically, and emotionally. I never had a kid before but I believe that heartbreak is worst than giving birth. I mean think about it...it only last for hours and then you are happy at the end because you have a person who loves you unconditionally. Heartbreak should be right next to a getting burned with fire. It's this pain that's deep down in your soul and it kicks your heart over and over again. I hate that feeling especially when you know you were there for that person in ways you haven't for others. It makes you think of all the cruel and mean things you can do to them for hurting you. Trust I have had that feeling where you want to go to his momma house and slap the shit out of her for not swallowing...Sorry I Had A Flashback!!! LOL..

I know it hurts very bad but you have to get over it. That is easier said than done because it can take months to years to get over someone that you love. There are things that you can do to get over a person not necessarily quickly because you can't shut off loving someone immediately. The first thing is...You have to come to grip that person wasn't the one, in fact they probably were never the one if you think about it. Were you really in love? Did you actually love them? Was it just the sex? Or Was it because you just settled? These are question you need to answer yourself.

The second thing is stop all contact with this person!! Delete them from your phone even though you may know their number by heart! Delete them from all social medias! What if he/she post a pic of woman/man? That would make you feel even worse! You have to get rid of all pictures and anything that reminds you of them. My ex left a whole closet of clothes in my hallway closet!! I gave them to Good Will and I gave his exercise equipment away! I had to get rid of it because when I look at it I would think of him...

Lastly to get over someone you have to get over yourself. You have to stop beating yourself up because it's not your fault they broke your heart! Stop making yourself sick and depressed! You have to look at this as a blessing for something better! Take your time and get to know yourself and if possible don't get into another relationship so soon.... Also...Also...Also don't become the Bitter Bitch or the Bitter Dog!! Don't make it hard for the next person and take it out on them! With all that being said Love yourself first and all else will follow!!!

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