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Artificial Love!!!

I have been in a situation where I thought I was in love but really it was just lust. This guy that i was involved with was a nice handsome guy and he different from any other guy because it was a physical attraction. I never had a thought of him being my man or anything like that! You know sometimes I imagine... I know this is strange lol....but I usually image what a guy would look like in my wedding image that I have in my head... Lol but I never did that to him...

He was sexy and he knew my body like he studied it or something lol... Amazing sex but empty at the same time! No real intimacy there....it was like after all the hormones were released... the moaning ... grabbing... exhaling & shit and you get no emotional response back.. I didn't want that because I knew deep inside he wasn't for me! That took a bit of time for me to understand that because I thought I loved him but until I noticed that I was just another notch in his belt but at the same time I had to think about it cause he was just another one for me. I didn't love him!!! I just loved his sex game!!!

The strange thing is you have to learn how to distinguish the two. Think about it tho..... having love is about sharing more than your body with someone. When you are in love it affects every part of your life. When you are just lusting over someone you want them there for the sex and you feel like you love or in love with that person but really you are not!!! Why subject yourself to artificial love? I know it hurts so good.... That pain you feel because they don't want you as much as you want them!!! When in reality you don't want them either you are just in lust!! Just remember that you deserve better than the artificial!!!!

 Have you had the same experience?  How do you define being in love/lust?

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